Tuesday, December 04, 2012

What a Difference a Decade Makes

Am I getting worry lines?!?!?
Dating in your early 30s is like a completely different world than dating in your early 20s. When I was in my 20s I was relaxed and my number one goal was to just have fun. Now that I'm single in my 30s, I have a new purpose in dating: to fall in love.

And not in some leisurely, meandering manner. I mean in a businesslike, let's cut the crap and do this kinda way!

Firstly, you suddenly find yourself as the single friend in a sea of couples. Everywhere I go, it feels like couple, couple, couple and single me. You beging to dread dinner parties and weekends away... you will ultimately be the odd one out! I am extremely lucky that none of my best friends in the area have had children yet, as I don't think I'd even be able to have regular conversations with them any more! But soon they will be starting their own families and I will be in the same place as before, totally unable to relate.

And the biological clock really does start ticking after a certain age. I've joked about needing to get remarried and have two children before I'm 37, but there is a lot of truth in that statement. While many women are now waiting longer to have children, biology has yet to catch up. Not only do women have only 10% of their ovarian eggs left by the time they hit 30, but the quality of the remaining eggs deteriorates, increasing the difficulty of conception and the risk of having an unhealthy baby. Ugh.

Maybe it's just because I'm still new at this, but I must say that dating in your 30s is extremely stressful! Even though I've already begun seeing someone, all I can do is think things like "Where is this going? What if it doesn't work out? How do I know if he's marriage material? Or even plans on getting married one day?" Any tips or thoughts on how to relax so I can just enjoy being with First Kiss? Besides watching copious amounts of The Mindy Project, of course!